Assalamu Alaykum Wa Rahmatullaahi Wa Barakatuh. My question is: My husband's brother's wife is an affluent educated woman Walhamdulilah (has a house and maids) and she is happy with her husband. The problem is the frequent conflicts with the family. When the family meets (My husbands family is 7 children who are married plus their friends) she sits with the men and not with us. Anyway, the story is that when she meets with my husband she says: your wife, your wife (this is with all my husbands siblings and we all face the same problem). It caused many problems and I confronted him and confronted her out of fear of Allaah, the Most High, and out of respect for my husband and hers. I denounced and spoke with her husband so that he'll know the reality of the situation and asked of him that she doesn't visit me, but she continued and asked my husband marriage another time and reached my son's honor. Note that I always tell my husband's oldest brother and now I will be her neighbor. Should I cut ties with her? I would like the sharee'ah's ruling, Jazaak Allaahu Khayran.

In the name of Allaah, the Benevolent, the Merciful. All praise is due to Allaah, and peace and blessings be upon the messenger of Allaah, upon his family, companions, and those loyal to him. I ask Allaah to aid you upon her and make your patience in that a sure road to His mercy. There should be differentiation between familial isolation that is intended to prevent gatherings of gossip and backbiting and cutting ties to rectify and safeguard the emotions of the husband and child. This is a legislated protocol, most particularly during the age of corruption. There must be differentiate between that and the forbidden cutting of ties between a Muslim and his fellow Muslim, because it is impermissible for a Muslim to abandon his brother for over three days in which they meet and each ignores the other, and the best of the two is the first to begin the greeting. That is the impermissible abandonment that is eluded by giving Salam (i.e. the greeting 'Assalamu Alaykum') and relieving them at times of need. This doesn't necessitate though intermingling with them. Rather, a Muslim is to choose either solitude or mixing with what will mend his affairs and rectify his religion and rescue him from tribulation and where he is more pleasing and serving to Allaah amidst. I ask Allaah pardon for us and you. And Allaah, the Most High, knows best.