I am a girl and I am 33 years old. Many young men proposed to me, but my father refused them, and I know a young man who works with me, what is the ruling about marrying him in secret?!

In the name of Allah the Beneficent the Merciful

Praise be to Allah, prayers and peace be upon His messenger, his family, companions, and followers.

My dear daughter! Mending a mistake by a mistake is wrong!

Your father`s refusal and preventing you from being married is completely wrong, but it is not permissible for you to rebel against the Shari`ah rules and principles, and the common sense of people, such as marriage announcement, meeting marriage terms and conditions by the guardian, dowry, witnesses, etc. Beware of the devil`s tricks that lead you to these destructive paths. We pray to Allah the Almighty to keep you and us safe and sound!

We advise you to seek Allah`s support by talking to your father though whom he trusts from people of knowledge, to advise and counsel him, to convince him to be flexible in his decision. Remember that whoever fears Allah, Allah will open up a way out and an exit for him, and so do we pray to Allah for you. Allah is the Object of our intent and He is The Supreme and The Sublime! He knows best.